Saying sorry..

Life is a juxtapose of a lot of emotions. Happiness, anger, jealousy, grief, etc etc etc. The human society demands its subjects to act in accordance with its rules, all the time. Recently, I was involved in a rather embarrassing situation which involved phone calls and cousins and some other relatives and I was caught red handed with something. All that was required to ease myself out of that quicksand was a simple humble and honest "I'm Sorry". Believe it or not folks, saying sorry is probably one of the toughest things to do.

I have come across many situations in which one has to sincerely apologize. Some people are over enthusiastic in their "'sorry's" and end up irritating the person to whom they are apologizing. Some others never mean a sorry and say it only at someone else's bidding. Some others say a quick sorry and vacate the premises even before anyone realizes that the sorry was actually said. Many others burst out crying just to avoid saying the words. Many end up trying to justify their actions or actually becoming abusive.

So why don't people want to say sorry?

Its a very simple thing actually.. some broad reasons why people do not say sorry might be...

1. They have a feeling that they are at fault but are trying to deny it. They try to justify their actions by giving lame excuses or going to the extent of actually inventing stories just so that their actions are justified. Such people are required in Bollywood to write better scripts, or in stand-up-comedy shows where their ability to lie at the drop of a pin is actually put to use.

2. They know that it is their fault entirely but they are more worried about their status in the society. These people are the ones from whom abuses can be expected. Shouting one's way out of trouble is an age old method of denial which, I am disgusted to say, actually works. It is often assumed that people who talk with confidence are right. But the next time someone tries to shout their way out of trouble, chances, its their fault.

3. They might be too embarrassed to accept their mistake. These people often recognize their mistake and realize that everybody also knows about their deed. So they quietly try to change the topic or make a sudden declaration about the weather or politics. These kind of situations are quite funny.

Whatever the reason for one not saying sorry, it is true that one does not improve if he doesnt recognize his mistakes and try to rectify them. So let us give up pretenses and actually try to say sorry next time we are really at fault.. Believe me its bloody difficult..

And by the way, I thought all this because my "Im sorry" came out after a long time and quite half heartedly when I should have been saying it almost instantaneously.

Ciao